Boundaries vs. Limits
After many years in working with clients and teaching people in workshops and trainings to body psychotherapy, I have realized how many people use phrases such as, “you inviolate my boundaries”, “I can’t keep my boundaries”, “people do not respect my boundaries” or “no one sees my boundaries”. But what most people are speaking about is not their boundaries, it is their ability or lack of ability to understand or handle or being aware of, their limits. Your lack of ability to handle your inner limit will give you the illusion of being inviolated in your boundaries even if it has nothing to do with your boundaries in itself. In my experience that’s why people can work with different boundaries issues for years without making any radical change, except using their boundaries for disconnecting instead of keeping the connection.
The boundaries define our physical and personal space and a physical violation of them puts us in fear, where neither dignity nor connection has a place. On the other hand the limits have to do with our energy management, the ability to manage our energy when someone else is triggering different layers of feelings and sensations in our body and how well we can contain or manage these different inner states of being. When we realize our limits we can pause, put a stop or we can bodily activate muscles that supports us, so that our ability to stay connected without falling in the illusion that someone is attacking our dignity or the right to our space, increases tremendously.
In this two days will be a bodily experimental workshop where we will work with the two principles, limits and boundaries. You will get a clear inner sensation and knowledge of your boundaries and your limits. You will gain awareness and strengthen your resources. You will come to realize how important it is to be able to distinguish the difference between boundaries and limits in order to get a more successful life.